1 yr update.
When Kevin was in China he was placed in a foster home 6 months before we got there. He had to go back to the orphanage 2 wks before we traveled to get him. We watched him walking with his nanny outside, just like a typical day for him. He was curious when she was trying to tell him, this is Mama and Baba. Our boy is smart, even at 2 1/2 he knew SUDDENLY that it was all about to change. When he began to cry, it was as if he was saying, "Not ANOTHER change.....just leave me where I am" It was as plain as the nose on his cute face. He was gently swayed with magical goldfish crackers and bubbles that make all tears disappear. It didn't hurt that some of his dear friends from the same place were there with him. I think somehow they all summoned strength from each other. We had older children in our travel group that understood, but still took lots of time to comfort the smaller ones, that had become their families. They understood that they wouldn't be going back and still had something left in their hearts to help out the smaller ones, when new mommies and daddies couldn't make it better.....yet.
Our boy has grown and challenged us so much since he became part of our family. He still contines to adore and prefer his father, but he does understand about the love of a Mother. He still doesn't like us to wear shoes in the house (mostly a habit from the foster family and Chinese culture, but he also equates shoes with leaving) but is becoming ok with staying with one parent. I adore his heart so much, it is guarded still, but so willing to love again. He adores his sisters and follows them everywhere. The Lord knew what he was doing when he directed me to the waiting children website. He has led us through dark times and rewarded us for our patience and understanding. I loooooove my boy, but certainly glad year 1 is under our belts.
He has a Wuxi special haircut because of mishaps with the shears....ooooppppppssssss
He has a Wuxi special haircut because of mishaps with the shears....ooooppppppssssss